What Do Mothers really want for Mother's Day? (No, It's not chocolate)

Maddie Linnartz
May 11, 2024
4 min read

Updated: May 13, 2024

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The past few nights as I finish up the nighttime routine and put my son to bed, I find myself thinking what do I really want for Mothers Day? I came to realize what I want does not cost money or does not have to cost a fortune. I told my Fiancé I wanted to spend Mother's Day alone, this had some mixed thoughts from him. First he does not believe me and thinks I'm joking. He was a bit shocked to hear that I am serious.

My son will be two in June, so this will be my second Mother's Day. I am a full-time student and momma, so there is not much time for myself at the end of the day. For my Ideal Mother's Day I can't think of anything more relaxing than to be in a Hotel for the night with a massage the next morning!

Come tomorrow my SO does work, so we will most likely do a dinner that evening. In other words I wanted to write this post for any significant other who wants to celebrate their other half for this special day but does not know where to start.

What Moms really want for Mother's Day

It's no secret that the days agenda is usually a result of moms doing, nothing wrong with that by the way, we do it best anyway ;). After asking some of my mama friends, they said on Mother's Day this year they were planning the activities for the day which were to celebrate them. Growing up I always saw my mother maybe not having to plan her own day of celebration but, being asked what do you want to for Mother's Day? Personally this is still her having to put in effort on her part.

I've talked to many other woman and it seems like we all end up orchestrating our own Mother's Day. This one day during the year should be a day off for moms to be pampered and celebrated, not to be another day we are in charge off.

A Mothers Day Unnoticed

There is this invisible mental load a mother has, and there is even more of a load on Mothers Day. In hind sight this is a main reason we mamas are wanting to spend the day alone rather than with family (sorry, babe!). We end up in disappointment on our day rather than joy. We rarely can think of the last time we really did something for ourselves. Constantly we have high expectations for Mothers Day for others to do. Since becoming a mom I have kind of changed my perception, I don't expect anything extravagant like we see in the movies because for us it is just not realistic. Me doing this gives my mind space to think ok what am I going to do today that I want to do and will do unapologetically.

4 Real Self-Care Ways To Celebrate Mothers Day

01. Hotel, Alone.

Lets start with, plan this for her, plan every activity for Mothers day for her. Being a full-time mom is hard, and theres a bunch of moms that also work, double the hard. A day alone in a hotel would be a dream for any mother. Put me in a Holiday Inn and I'm happy, haha. All the room service her heart desires, and completely to herself!

02. Let the built up mental load out

Managing our own emotions is hard, especially when having to help a toddler manage theirs. Send her and some friends to a rage room, just trust me she will have a blast more than she would at brunch, even though we would probably get brunch afterwards!

03. Homemade Gifts

If you really want to get her something, please do not buy her flowers or chocolate, trust me she does not want it. There are a bunch of almost kit like things out there you can buy, my favorite idea being is this Clay Handprint Bowl , mom will love it and will be able to use it to hold anything!

04. Help her with her Hobbies for the day

I personally have gotten into gardening and what I really mean is I'm obsessed with it! Whichever hobby she has that is her pride and joy you could center the day around that. You could even start the day with this gardening tool kit. I know I would be obsessed with this gift and would not be leaving my garden ever!

One More Day?

Lets stop and think, why should moms only be celebrated for just one day. I don't think it would be such a bad idea to change up the tradition a bit. We as moms do a lot for others so making them feel seen every once in awhile may be beneficial. I think everyone should consistently make others feel seen for everything they do for others on more than just their specified day.

Final Thoughts

This was A LOT of info, I hope you got some ideas to make that special Mamas Mother's Day amazing, and top maybe have a bit more of an insight into moms day to day.

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